Summary

  • Jax and Tom's friendship has undergone numerous ups and downs, including Jax sleeping with Tom's girlfriend and demoting Tom from best man to groomsman.
  • Although they have reconciled in the past, their friendship took another hit when Tom questioned Jax over his delayed action in firing an anti-gay pastor for his wedding.
  • In the Vanderpump Rules reunion, it was revealed that Jax and Tom are not friends anymore, with Jax mostly hanging out with married couples and other parents, and Tom focused on his bar and dealing with the aftermath of his affair.

Vanderpump Rules' Tom Sandoval and former cast member Jax Taylor were BFFs who were sometimes frenemies, but their relationship has changed since Jax’s exit from the show. Jax and Tom have had a rocky friendship over the years. In Vanderpump Rules season 2, Jax admitted to sleeping with Kristen Doute, Tom’s girlfriend at the time. Tom eventually forgave Jax, but the two always fought for their friend group's “number one guy” spot.

Their friendship took another hit when Jax demoted Tom from best man to a groomsman for his wedding. At the time, it emerged that Jax's fiancée and Vanderpump Rules costar Brittany Taylor’s pastor, who was to be their officiant, had anti-gay sentiments. The couple eventually fired the pastor, but Tom questioned Jax why it took them so long to decide. The accusation started a massive fight between them, but they ultimately made up, and Jax invited Tom to be his best man again. Since then, Jax has publicly stated that he wished he didn’t have Tom at his wedding.

Where Does Jax & Tom's Relationship Stand Today?

Vanderpump Rules' Jax Taylor on WWHL smiling

In the Vanderpump Rules season 9 reunion, Andy Cohen asked Tom where his friendship with Jax stood. Tom stated that they’re at different points in their lives but will be friendly when they bump into each other. However, Ariana jumped in and claimed that Jax didn’t come to Katie Maloney’s Christmas party because he knew Tom would be there. Andy suggested that Jax “hates” Tom, and Ariana and Tom agreed. Jax has never admitted to “hating” Tom, but he has said they’re not on the same page. Since he's now a father to his son Cruz Taylor, Jax said he mostly hangs out with married couples and other parents.

Jax Defending Tom During Scandoval

Tom Sandoval Vanderpump Rules season 10 reunion meltdown montage

He and Tom still aren't friends, but Jax publicly defended Tom during "scandoval." While Jax claimed his cheating situation wasn't like Tom's, he did urge fans to get over the scandal and was accused of minimizing the impact of Tom's affair. Jax likely empathized with Tom due to the fallout after his cheating scandal. However, it was also seen as piggybacking for publicity.

After season 8 ended, the fact that Jax and Brittany wouldn't return to VPR became common knowledge. Additionally, former stars Stassi Schroeder and Kristen were fired from the show following a racism controversy. The original friend group became severed, and many new faces joined, including Brock Davies.

Despite Jax defending Tom after "scandoval," the men seem to have both moved on from their friendship. Although he is no longer on Vanderpump Rules, Jax keeps busy producing and investing in shows. Tom is busy with his co-owned bar, TomTom, and dealing with the fallout of his messy affair. It's unlikely they will ever repair their friendship.