One of the best parts of watching Sex and the City is getting to hear the questions that Carrie Bradshaw poses in her column in every episode. Aside from the final two episodes of the series when Carrie is living in Paris, she asks a question relating to love in every episode of the show.
While some are ridiculous, some are cheesy, and some are problematic, there are a few select questions that Carrie asks that actually force viewers to think. These are the most relatable questions of the bunch that the audience can apply to their own lives. Check them out below!
"In A City Of Great Expectations, Is It Time To Settle For What You Can Get?"
The question of settling comes up in everybody’s life sooner or later. In the case of Sex and the City, Carrie asks this in the context of a relationship, hypothesizing whether it’s better to settle for someone one doesn’t really love or end up alone.
But most people are confronted with this question in some capacity. If it’s not in the context of a relationship, it might be regarding a career or other life choices. Is it better to settle or go without?
"Are We Willing To Believe Anything To Date?"
In the eighth episode of the second season, Carrie poses this question to her readers. Looking objectively at some of the people that the four women date over the course of the series, it’s clear that this question is relevant and the answer is probably yes.
Many people out there do believe anything just so that things will work out in their love lives. In the case of Carrie and Big, Carrie constantly believes that Big will come around even though early on he gives her plenty of signs that he won’t.
"What Are The Break-Up Rules?"
Anyone who’s dealt with a break up has asked themselves this question, which also comes from the second season. When someone goes from lover to ex, there are a lot of uncertainties about how they should be treated, what the relationship will become, and what the rules are.
In truth, there probably is no universal answer to this question because every relationship and every break up is so different.
"Can You Be Friends With An Ex?"
This question explores Carrie’s theories about the ending of relationships in a little more depth. If there are break-up rules, where do they stand on one remaining friends with an ex?
Again, there might not be a clear-cut answer to this question, but it certainly is relevant. Some people choose to be friends with their exes, with disastrous results, while others don’t even think about it. What works for some won’t work for others.
"Do We Really Want These Things, Or Are We Just Programmed?"
This has to be one of Carrie’s most excellent questions and it applies to a lot of people. The majority of people do pursue marriage and children but it’s reasonable to ask whether they actually want these things for themselves or whether they’re just programmed by society to want them.
If more people thought about this question before making big decisions, perhaps the world as it’s now known would change significantly.
"When It Comes To Relationships, Is It Smarter To Follow Your Heart Or Your Head?"
The battle between the heart and the head, or the emotions and the logic, constantly comes up in relationships on Sex and the City and beyond. Ideally, it seems that people should aim for relationships that satisfy both their heart and their head rather than having to choose between them.
A relationship that makes no sense isn’t something to aim for, and neither is a relationship where there are no real feelings involved.
"Is Timing Everything?"
In Season Three, Carrie can’t help but wonder whether the timing is everything. Upon looking at the main relationships that play out on the show, timing does seem pretty important.
If Carrie had met Aidan before she fell in love and became so attached to Big, it’s possible that she would have ended up with him instead.
"To Be In A Couple, Do You Have To Put Your Single Self On The Shelf?"
In the fourth season, Carrie asks this super relevant question. Often, people do end up losing themselves when they get into relationships.
There are parts of one’s single self that they might have to sacrifice in order to be in a relationship, such as their freedom. But many people make the mistake of losing themselves completely just to fit into a relationship.
"Soulmates. Reality Or Torture Device?"
The question of whether soulmates really exist or not has plagued infinite hopeless romantics over the years, including Carrie Bradshaw. The concept of a soulmate makes one wonder whether there really is that perfect person out there for everybody or whether that’s just wishful thinking.
Although soulmates seem like a romantic concept, it might be better if they actually don’t exist, and people have a chance to make any relationship work rather than only a single relationship that’s been ordained by the stars.
"Why Is It Always Something?"
This question points out a truth that all people must come to accept: there is no such thing as perfect. When it comes to relationships, there really is always something, and that can be incredibly frustrating.
As relatable as this question is, perhaps Carrie should have asked another one: “How do you know what flaws are worth putting up with in a person, and which ones aren’t?” Food for thought!