The Office: 15 Crazy Secrets About Jim And Pam’s Relationship

Jim Halpert (John Krasinski) and Pam Beesly (Jenna Fischer), one of the most beloved onscreen couples in recent TV history, featured in the workplace sitcom The Office, which aired on NBC from March 2005 to May 2013. The comedy series was an adaptation of Ricky Gervais’ original BBC series for an American audience by Greg Daniels. The Office, widely regarded as one of the best sitcoms ever, was contrived to look like a real documentary depicting the lives of employees at the Scranton, Pennsylvania branch of the fictional paper company Dunder Mifflin.

Enthralled Office fans followed the romance of Jim and Pam which started with Pam as a receptionist engaged to Roy (David Denman), and Jim, a sales representative who pined with unrequited love for Pam until they got together and became a married couple.

Their marriage became strained when Jim took a second job with a company that he started with other investors and was forced to split his time between Scranton and Philadelphia, leaving Pam alone to the challenge of raising their children. The issues festered until they went for counseling and Jim acknowledged their marriage was more important. However, Pam agreed to move the family to Austin so that Jim could pursue his dream of working with his company at its new headquarters.

Fans missed the show after it went off the air in 2013 and to help sustain fond memories of the TV couple, we present The Office: 15 Crazy Secrets About Jim And Pam's Relationship.

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15 Fischer Shared The Secret Behind The Success Of Jim And Pam In The Office

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Actress Jenna Fischer, who played Pam Beesly in The Office, caused a stir when she shared the secret to her onscreen chemistry with Office co-star John Krasinski, during a January 2016 appearance on Watch What Happens Live with Andy Cohen. Responding to a caller who wanted to know if the co-stars were close in real life or whether their onscreen connection was only just good acting, Fischer said the secret of her onscreen chemistry with Krasinski, who played Jim Halpert, was that they were "genuinely in love" with each other in real life.

Accordant to Fischer, a part of her in real-life was Pam, while a part of Krasinski in real-life was Jim, and those parts were "genuinely in love with one another."

But she added that the part of her in real-life that was Pam, and the part of Krasinski in real-life that was Jim, were not the whole of their real-life personalities so they weren't as much a perfect match in real-life as their onscreen characters were. However, she concluded that she and Krasinski would always remain close to each other because she regarded her co-star as a "type of spouse" due to their special onscreen relationship.

The co-stars got married in July 2010, but many fans were disappointment they did not marry each other in real life. Krasinski married actress Emily Blunt on July 10th, only seven days after Fischer’s wedding to writer and director Lee Kirk.

14 Krasinski Later Awkwardly Denied Fischer's Claim That They Were "Genuinely In Love"

Things got really awkward days after Fischer (Pam Beesly) told Andy Cohen on Watch What Happens Live that her onscreen chemistry with Krasinski in The Office was due to the fact that they were "genuinely in love with one another." While fans debated the implications of what they took to be a confession by Fischer that she and Krasinski had a real-life romantic relationship, Krasinski insisted in an interview with The Daily Beast that the media had misquoted Fischer or taken her words out of context.

According to Krasinski, Fischer was only trying to say that they had a sincere and close relationship. He said that although it was an honor to have developed a close relationship with Fischer, it was inaccurate to say that they "were genuinely in love.” He said it was unfortunate that the media wildly misconstrued Fischer’s words.

However, many fans suggested that Krasinski's strongly worded denial might have been due to the fact that he was already married to Emily Blunt and was concerned that Fischer's comments might give a misleading impression about their relationship. Krasinski had previously told The Daily Beast that he never lived the "playboy type of lifestyle" before he met Blunt in 2008 and married her in 2010. He said that the best part of his life started after he met Blunt.

13 The Producers Had Planned For Jim And Pam To Be An Interracial Couple

Jenna Fischer and John Krasinski as Jim and Pam in The Office

The Office executive producer Greg Daniels revealed to TV Guide in 2013 that he had considered casting an African American actress and actor from Pam and Roy (Pam’s ex-boyfriend). According to Daniels, he had originally planned to "Americanize" Jim and Pam's relationship by casting Craig Robinson (who eventually played Darryl) as Roy and Erica Vittina Phillips (who eventually played Darryl's ex-wife) as Pam. Casting Erica Vittina Phillips as Pam would have led to an interracial relationship between Jim and Pam after Pam called off her wedding to Roy.

Daniels apparently abandoned the plan to have Erica Vittina Phillips play Pam after Fischer auditioned for Pam, as he decided she was the best fit for the role. Daniels told TV Guide that he never had a reason to regret his final decision to cast Fischer and Krasinski as Pam and Jim. He insisted that Fischer turned out to be a perfect fit for the role of Pam. He also said that David Denman, Craig Robinson, and John Krasinski, turned out to be perfect fits for their roles as Roy, Darryl and Jim respectively, and that he never regretted his decision to stick with the actors in their respective final roles.

12 Krasinski Nearly Lost The Part Of Jim To Adam Scott And Pam Was Nearly Played By Kathryn Hahn

John Krasinski and Jenna Fischer ended up in the roles of of Jim and Pam against all odds. Comments to the media by multiple inside sources, including Daniels, show that the roles might easily have gone to several other actors and actresses

Parks and Recreation (TV series 2009-2015) star Adam Scott auditioned for the part of Jim Halpert and was nearly cast in the role. Scott had the best chance of being cast because Krasinski's audition did not go well. Krasinski was actually supposed to read for the part of Dwight Schrute, but he managed to convince the directors to allow him to read for Jim. He nearly flubbed his chance during an unexpected encounter with Daniels in the waiting room. Daniels asked Krasinski if he was feeling nervous. Krasinski did not realize he was speaking with the executive producer of the show, so he spoke candidly, saying he feared that the Americans would flub the British show.

Kathryn Hahn was seriously considered for the role of Pam and Angela Kinsey was also considered for the role before she was cast as Angela.

Fischer once confessed that she felt lucky that her biggest competitor Alyson Hannigan did not audition for the role. According to Fischer, she and Hannigan had competed in multiple auditions and casting directors always chose Hannigan over her. She said she became so frustrated that when Hannigan walked in for any audition she was trying out for, she would give up and walk out.

11 The Office Almost Got A Jim and Pam Family Show Spinoff

Executive produer Greg Daniels revealed during a May 2013 interview with TV Guide that one of the major Office spinoff proposals that they had on the table for some time was a Jim and Pam family show. However, the former executive producer Michael Schur revealed that the idea was finally shelved due to concerns that it might hurt The Office, which was in season 4 at the time. According to Schur, it did not seem to anyone a good idea to take Fischer and Krasinski from The Office during season 4 of the show.

Other spinoff ideas that the producers considered included a mockumentary version of PBS' An American Family (1973), which would have featured Ed Helms' Andy Bernard as the dad of the family and Catherine Tate (who played Nellie Bertram in The Office) as the mom of the family. Craig Robinson and Rainn Wilson were also considered for their own shows as Darryl Philbin and Dwight Schrute respectively.

Dwight’s spinoff was eventually produced as one season 9 episode of The Office titled “The Farm.” Rainn Wilson later told HuffPost that he was very disappointed when NBC decided to pass on it because they worked very hard on the idea and he had believed it was unique.

10 Fischer Cried Tears Of Joy When She Learned Krasinski Was Playing Jim

During an appearance in an episode of The Jeff Probst Show in January 2013, Fischer  talked about her interaction with Krasinski during the final round of auditioning that involved eight actors (four actors for the role of Pam, and four for the role of Jim). She recalled in her book The Actor’s Life: A Survival Guide (2017) that the chemistry between her and Krasinski was already apparent at the time. She recalled that he whispered to her during the auditioning that she was his favorite and that he hoped she would get the role.

When Fischer eventually got the role, the first question she asked was whether Krasinski also got the role of Jim Halpert.

Fischer said she was elated and cried tears of joy when she learned that Krasinski would be her co-star. She was excited because she believed that Krasinski was the right co-star for the Jim-Pam relationship they were going to portray on TV. Krasinski also revealed that he felt that Fischer was going to get the role the moment he saw her and that they both felt they were destined to co-star as Jim and Pam. Krasinski admitted that the first question he asked when he got the role of Jim was if Fischer also got the role of Pam.

9 Jim And Pam's First Kiss Was Krasinski's First Ever Onscreen, But He Lied About It

Jim and Pam in The Office

Jim Halpert's first kiss with Pam Beesly in The Office season 2 finale “Casino Night,” which aired on May 11th, 2006, was Krasinski's first ever onscreen kiss. However, Krasinski was apparently shy about the fact that it was his first onscreen kiss, so when Fischer asked him about it, he did not admit it was his first. But Fischer was open about the fact that the kiss was her first onscreen kiss.

The kiss was the culmination of two seasons of onscreen flirting between Pam and Jim, as well as an intensifying off-screen connection between the two co-stars since they first met while auditioning for their roles in the TV show. Fischer wrote in her book The Actor's Life: A Survival Guide, that the kissing scene was very carefully planned because the producers wanted to get it just right.

The kiss was a momentous event on TV and hundreds of articles were published about it. Director Ken Kwapis told Entertainment Weekly that the scene was shot with hidden cameras that eavesdropped on the couple, with Pam having her back to the screen. Jim's facial expression was visible, but viewers did not get to see Pam's. This, according to an insider, was designed to force viewers to put themselves in Pam's shoes and imagine how she reacted when Jim kissed her.

8 Fischer "Felt Transported Into A New Reality" During Jim And Pam's First Kiss Scene

Jenna Fischer as Pam Beesly in The Office

Fischer revealed in her book The Actor’s Life: A Survival Guide, that she would never forget her first onscreen kiss with Krasinski in the episode "Casino Night," the season 2 finale of The Office that was aired in May 2006. Fischer, enthused that after director Ken Kwapis gave instructions for the scene and walked away, "felt completely transported into a new reality." She recalled the sequence of onscreen events that led to the kiss. Her character Pam had been talking to her mother on the phone about how much she loved Jim, but she could not confess her feelings to him. As she talked with her mother on the phone, she turned and saw Jim walking into the room and her heart nearly burst out of her chest. She wanted to confess her feelings, but before she could, Jim walked up to her and kissed her, and "it was perfect," Fischer added in her book.

She wrote that that in the moment after the kiss, the crew and the whole cast knew that they had just filmed one of the most iconic first kisses in TV history. She also recalled in her book the first time that she met Krasinski while auditioning for a role in the sitcom. They walked past each other as she was entering the actor's holding room. He stopped and introduced himself and she said that it was as if lightning struck at the moment they shook hands.

7 The Replica Of A Rest Stop For Jim And Pam's Proposal Scene Cost $250,000

The replica of a Merritt Parkway rest stop that was built for Jim and Pam's gas station proposal scene cost $250,000, according to executive producer Greg Daniels who described it as the most elaborate scene created for the nine-season TV show. But they were willing to commit so much resources to that scene because it was the highlight of their five years of storytelling, Daniels added.

According to the Washington Post, the scene was supposed to take place in the rain at a gas station and Daniels had envisaged it to take place at an actual rest stop on the Merritt Parkway in Connecticut. Director Paul Feig and the cast flew to the East Coat for the shooting, but when they found that it would cost $100,000 and that they would not be allowed to use their huge rain machines, they flew back with the film crew to Los Angeles. Since the producers were bent on having the gas station proposal scene they decided to recreate it in L.A., the production team finally built a replica of the rest stop on a parking lot behind a Best Buy. The replica ended up costing more than twice as much as the original scene would have.

6 Fischer Kept The Engagement Ring Jim Gave To Pam

Fischer kept the engagement ring that Jim gave to Pam in The Office. She kept the ring as a souvenir and allegedly wore it in public after series ended. Fans claimed that she wore the ring during multiple TV appearances.

It was also rumored that the ring cost the show about $5,000.

However, Fischer took to Twitter on April 5th, 2017, to deny rumors that the ring was worth about $5,000. She admitted she was keeping the ring, but insisted it was only a silver prop ring not worth $5,000. She also appeared to deny claims that she was seen wearing it in public, as she insisted that she did not "wear it in real life." But despite her denial, in December 2017, the Huffington Post referred to a previous report that Fischer once claimed she refused to take the ring off after Jim gave it to Pam.

Fischer had been the subject of gossip back in 2009 when some fans claimed they spotted her without her engagement ring on multiple occasions (she was engaged to writer Lee Kirk at the time). She later addressed the rumors in a post to her MySpace page,  saying that she did not wear her engagement ring to work because she would have to take it off and leave it in her trailer where it might be stolen.

5 Fischer’s Real-Life Pregnancy Coincided With Pam's Season 8 Pregnancy


Jenna Fischer was pregnant in real life during Season 8 of the show. Her onscreen character Pam was also pregnant during season 8 of the show, but the producers had not foreseen that Pam’s second onscreen pregnancy would coincide with Fischer's real-life first pregnancy. However, the coincidence was welcome and the show gladly exploited it for a realistic portrayal of Pam's pregnancy.

Fischer first publicly announced in May 2011 that she was expecting her first baby with her husband Lee Kirk. When fans later learned that the season 8 plot of Fischer's onscreen marriage (as Pam) to Jim Halpert would involve a second pregnancy, many assumed that the producers decided to run the pregnancy story after they learned that Fischer was pregnant in real life. However, it was later confirmed that the writers had planned the plot twist before they learned that Fischer was pregnant and expecting a baby.

Fischer first confirmed that Pam would be pregnant in season 8 in a July 2011 interview with Vulture. She revealed that the producers were pleased with the “convenient coincidence" of her real-life pregnancy and Pam's, so they were planning to take full advantage of it. According to the plot twist, Pam got pregnant when she sneaked away with Jim on Valentine's Day in the previous season. However, they kept the pregnancy secret until season 8.

4 Pam's Consultant In "The Delivery" Was Fischer's Real-Life Husband Lee Kirk

Pam Beesly gave birth to her first child in the two-part season 6 episode of The Office titled "The Delivery." Her lactation consultant after she gave birth was Fischer's real-life husband, Lee Kirk. Pam had problems breastfeeding her baby, Cecelia Halpert, so she called a lactation specialist to her hospital room. Jim did not hide his disapproval when the male lactation specialist touched Pam as he tried to show her how to properly breastfeed her baby.

While many viewers might have been amused to observe Jim’s indignation when the specialist touched his wife, few realized at the time that the male actor who played the role of the lactation specialist was in fact Fischer's real-life husband, the writer Lee Kirk. Krasinski, of course, knew who Kirk was so he was only playing his onscreen role of Jim Halpert when he appeared to be offended.

Lee Kirk is a writer, director and actor. He wrote The Man Who Invented The Moon (2003) and starred in Pants on Fire (2008). He also wrote and directed The Giant Mechanical Man (2012). Kirk and Fischer were married in July 2010, about a week after Krasinski married Emily Blunt. The wedding, which took place in Malibu, was attended by many of their Office co-stars. They have two children, Weston and Harper.

3 Jim Might Have Cheated On Pam

Some fans claimed there was plenty of evidence that Jim cheated on Pam. A popular fan theory insists that the documentary crew helped Jim to cover up his cheating most likely because the producers wanted to focus only on the storyline that involved his swoon-worthy relationship with Pam.

According to the fan theory, Jim admitted he cheated on Pam during the last episode of The Office titled "Finale," aired on May 16th, 2013. When Pam was asked during the Q&A session why she stopped trusting Jim, he appeared to hastily cut her off. He then addressed the question evasively and declared that whatever problems existed between them was his fault. He added that the film editors treated Pam unfairly by showing him in a better light.

Many fans interpreted Jim's comments to mean that the producers edited the show to exclude compromising footage or stopped filming when Jim was misbehaving.

To support the theory, some fans pointed to the fact that there is practically no footage of Jim's season 9 time in Philly. Was Jim's time in Philly kept off-camera because he was with someone? Other fans speculated that Jim might have secretly been with Cathy Simms during their business trip to Florida after filming stopped.

Some skeptical Reddit fans argued that Jim displayed sociopathic traits and that he might have consciously cultivated a favorable outward appearance to throw viewers off when, in fact, he was a devious, scheming and manipulating person.

2 Pam Might Have Cheated On Jim

Another popular fan theory claims that Pam might have cheated on Jim with one of the members of the documentary crew, the boom mic operator Brian. Brian -- played by Chris Diamantopoulos -- entered into the shot for the first time when he came forward to comfort Pam as she cried following an argument with Jim during the season 9 episode of the show titled "Customer Loyalty."  The episode was the first time ever that the show revealed any of The Office documentary crew. Brian's intervention happened at a time that Pam and Jim's marriage relationship was under strain after he started working part-time in Philadelphia. Many fans thought that there appeared to be an emotional connection between Pam and Brian and felt convinced that the show purposefully hinted that Pam might have been cheating on Jim with Brian.

Later in the season 9 episode of the show titled "Vandalism," Brian protected Pam from Frank the warehouse worker. When Frank attempted to attack Pam, Brian saved Pam by hitting Frank on the face with his boom mic. He got fired for his action, but only after he had proved his dedication to Pam.

During an interview with Entertainment Weekly, Daniels hinted at possible marital issues ahead for Pam and Jim. According to Daniels, although Pam and Jim had developed a strong relationship bond there might have been another guy lurking behind the scenes all the time.

1 Krasinski Might Have Slipped A Jim And Pam Reference Into A Quiet Place

After The Office ended in 2013, Krasinski moved on to other projects. He appeared on a few shows and 13 Hours: The Secret Soldiers of Benghazi (2016). He then directed and starred in The Hollars (2016), and in 2018, he wrote, directed and co-starred with his wife Emily Blunt in the horror movie, A Quiet Place. The movie is about a family forced to live in silence to avoid being detected by creatures that hunt by sound.

The Office fans noticed a particular scene in A Quiet Place that (2018) was eerily reminiscent of an adorable Jim and Pam moment in The Office. In the swoon-worthy scene from season 2, episode 7 ("The Client") of The Office, Jim and Pam cutely shared headphones. The scene in A Quiet Place where Lee (Krasinski) shared headphones with Evelyn (Blunt) appeared to be a remake of The Office scene. However, while Jim and Pam shared headphones as a sweet gesture of their emerging romantic connection, Lee and Evelyn shared headphones to avoid being detected.

Although Krasinski admitted in an interview with Mashable that A Quiet Place was inspired by his Jim and Pam experience, he did not specifically admit that the headphone moment in A Quiet Place was directly inspired by The Office. However, many fans were convinced that the striking similarity between the scenes couldn't be a coincidence and that Krasinski almost certainly created the scene as a tribute to Jim and Pam.


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