On 90 Day Fiancé: Happily Ever After? Bilal Hazziez continues to side-step the issue of his wife Shaeeda Sween wanting to have a baby, and 90 Day Fiancé fans have opinions about why Shaeeda lets Bilal ignore her biological clock. The couple debuted on 90 Day Fiancé season 9 and it became immediately clear that Bilal and Shaeeda have major compatibility issues. Shaeeda was very upfront about wanting to start a family with Bilal, but Bilal has expressed a reluctance to have any more kids. Despite their major disagreements about future goals, the couple got married, and it was just the start of their troubles.
The couple even added a clause to their prenup about having a baby before Shaeeda turns 40, and now that Shaeeda and Bilal have joined the Happily Ever After? season 7 cast, viewers get to see more of their journey. Once again, Bilal and Shaeeda aren’t seeing eye-to-eye on the topic of children, though Shaeeda has tried to change Bilal’s mind. The yoga enthusiast dragged Bilal into the children’s side of a furniture store, but Bilal’s demeanor was ice cold. In a preview for an upcoming episode, the couple goes to see a fertility specialist, and Bilal seems as uninterested as ever. Many fans now suspect that Bilal had a vasectomy that he has been hiding from Shaeeda, and he’s being accused of intentionally wasting Shaeeda’s fertile years.
In a Reddit thread posted by femme_fatale2022, fans discussed a tweet that said, “one of the cruelest things a man can do is purposefully waste a woman’s fertile years when she yearns for nothing more than to be a mother.” Most 90 Day Fiancé viewers feel it’s painfully obvious that Bilal doesn’t want any more children and wondered why Shaeeda stays with him. Though some commenters thought it was desperation that makes Shaeeda stick around, others cited the sunk cost fallacy. Shaeeda may feel that she’s sunk so much time and emotional energy into her relationship with Bilal, and she doesn’t want it all to be for nothing by getting a divorce.
At 37 years old, Shaeeda is definitely nearing the end of her fertile years, and some fans suspected that she simply feels she’s running out of time and doesn’t want to start all over again looking for a new partner. While some fans had harsh criticism for Shaeeda ignoring Bilal’s red flags, Bilal has never definitively said he doesn’t want any more children. Instead, he’s danced around the issue, saying things like he would consider having a baby at some point, but not now. This kind of behavior inspires hope in Shaeeda, who thinks she’ll be able to change Bilal’s mind. Some fans in the thread suspected Bilal may have initially agreed to having kids when he first started dating Shaeeda, but subsequently walked his statements back.
In many ways, Shaeeda may also feel that she doesn’t have any other options. She essentially abandoned her life in Trinidad and Tobago and is now entirely dependent on Bilal. Until Shaeeda receives her Green Card, she cannot work and has no way to support herself. With no Green Card or support system, for the time being, Shaeeda is trapped with Bilal, or faces deportation. That doesn’t give her the option to leave Bilal and date around to find someone else. Shaeeda may truly think that wearing down Bilal’s resolve is her only chance to have a child before her biological clock runs out.
There are many relatable reasons why Shaeeda has decided to stick it out with Bilal and hold on to the hope that one day he will change his mind about having a baby. Though many 90 Day Fiancé: Happily Ever After? viewers think Shaeeda should never have married Bilal in the first place, she may believe it was her best option for starting a family. However, Bilal seems hell-bent on running out the clock on Shaeeda’s fertility. If that is his plan, it’s a truly despicable way to treat Shaeeda, who may not have many years left to have a baby. At this point, Shaeeda’s best option is to freeze her eggs, keep an eye out for her Green Card, and go from there.
Source: u/femme_fatale2022/Reddit